When my husband and I make a decision, we pray about it both together and separately, then talk about it and see what we feel like God is saying. Usually we are in agreement, but there have been a few times where we reached opposite conclusions.
As hard as it may be at times, I choose to swallow my pride and make sure my husband knows as head of the household, the buck stops with him. He is the one who God chose for me, and I will submit to his authority.
Submitting to my husband’s authority helps me understand how to submit to God, and vise versa. We have found this to be true: couples who love God first love each other better.
When God created families, He did so in all His love and wisdom, knowing exactly how to make a unit that would reflect Himself. He created the husband to be the head as a loving, serving leader who puts his wife and children’s needs first.
He created the wife to serve alongside her husband, making decisions together with him, but ultimately trusting that God made the husband to be the leader.
This is obviously not a popular teaching in today’s society, and even in the church it has become offensive to a lot of people. But that doesn’t change the Word of God or His plan for family roles.
A lot of the offense comes from people thinking this passage means a man should rule over a woman as a controller and dictator, as if she were inferior. That belief is completely opposite what this passage actually means, and why so many have rejected this important biblical teaching.
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:22-25, ESV)
Notice it says, “as to the Lord.” As a wife, I choose to be under my husband’s leadership just as I do God’s. My husband’s responsibility is to love me as Christ loves the church.
Marriage is a beautiful picture of Jesus and His people, and when done correctly can help us and the rest of the world get a glimpse of how much God loves us.